Sustainable Parenting

We keep talking about sustainable living to save our planet.

Have you ever thought what ‘Sustainable living means’?

All life on earth depends on the environment. Every thing is inter-dependent. Sustainability is the idea to interact is such a way that there is enough resource for each one of us and for our future generations. We have to learn to use things just enough for our need and not waste -a very good example would be the use of water or food. It is important to remember that  we are the lucky ones who don’t have to worry for our daily needs, so it becomes our prime duty to see that we don’t waste.

As parents it is our responsibility to teach our children the importance of sustainable leaving. The best way to do this is by disciplining ourselves and making it a habit not to buy unless we need . Hoarding or storing dose not help us in any way, it often leaves the space and our mind cluttered.

Let us break the rule and be parents with a difference. To stand together is always easier than being by oneself.

I will mention just a few things to help you become ‘Sustainable Parents’, and teach your child the wealth of sustainable and happy living.

A little less is always better than a little more.

-Use news paper to wrap gifts. Your children can paint and decorate the paper.

-After eating make it a habit to wash hands instead of using a paper napkin.

-Serve small portions of food and water to avoid wasting.

-If something is required just for a one time use , don’t hesitate to borrow from a friend eg a hat for a day picnic.

-Be a eco friendly parent. Your consciousness rubs off on your kids. Do what you want your kids to do-no to plastic, use a dustbin, segregate garbage

-Use the old school bag, water bottle ,crayons, if in good condition.

-Donate your old things and give them with respect, they should be useable.

It is not possible to achieve ‘Zero Waste’ status. In our own little ways just try to make little changes and save our resources.

Let us teach our kids to love and care all things. Waste not Want not.

 

 

The Best Gift Parents can Give their Child

One of the most important gift a parent can give a child is the gift of accepting that child’s uniqueness.

 

Fred Rogers

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Behavioural Pattern -8

                                            MEEKNESS AND SHYNESS

 

A Meek or Shy person is someone who is hesitant to actively participate or engage with people around him/her. They prefer to be observers and stand a little aloof when in a gathering.

A shy child is of a gentle and delicate nature and is comfortable with solitary  activities or is happy to be with familiar individuals .They sometimes don’t mind being in a group but are silent observers and take their time to warm up and feel a free to interact with their peers.

             

It is important to recognize and respect shy children in a preschool as it is the first time they are away from home. Shy kids have strong observation skills and take in their environment deeply as they quietly watch what is around them.

Parents ,teachers and others need to handle them gently with a loving secure and understanding environment .This will help them to express themselves at their own pace and develop socially.

Here are some simple points to handle Shy kids.

Every child is different and needs to handled as special with full respect.

It is important to remember that each child is a unique individual and what works for one may not work for another. So we need to adapt the strategies we use basing them on the individual needs and comfort level of the child being handled.

1.  Be patient and avoid pressuring the child to be more out going .Understand that shyness is a natural trait and takes time for the child to over come it.

2. Respect the need of the child’s personal space. Avoid pushing him/her into social situations they are not ready for but keep a watchful eye and see what are their likes and dislikes..

what makes them feel comfortable.

3. Create opportunities for the child to interact with his/her peers beginning with faces they are familiar with. Never push them to socialise be patient.

4. Always praise and acknowledge the child’s effort however small it may be ..Let the others around know of the  achievements , this will boost self worth  and slowly build confidence.

5. Create a supportive group who work at the same wave length….helpers, parents ,teachers.

6. Greet the child and slowly encourage them to greet never forcing them . Ask simple questions like “How are you?” or praise them “You are wearing a lovely dress today. ” This will slowly encourage self expression .

7. Observe and keep in mind what the child shows interest in and try to provide activities in those areas eg art , storytelling or music this will slowly build up the child’s confidence.

It is important to remember that not every child is a leader . Some will be full of confidence while others will be inhibited to do things.

Each child is different and each one is good at something .Remember a quiet child need not be a shy child .It could just be a trait he/she has. They are good listeners and participate in group activities.

So dear parents handle with care .Your support and guidance will help them to become good human beings as they grow up.

Love your child unconditionally and be proud of them as they are .Bringing up a child is not an easy job and there is no magic wand to help.

Behavioural issues are all part of a child’s growing up and can normally be taken care of with the right guidance.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Emotions — Behavioural Pattern 7

Emotions are symptoms every child has in the process of growing up. Emotions could be sad or happy , but whatever the feeling we should never ever try to suppress them but help to direct and channel them into constructive use.

As we grow up we learn how to manage our emotions either by sharing them or just by ourselves.

Kids in kindergarten are just coming out into the world. In their first five years they learn many things….. sharing , socializing , building up their self esteem and standing out as individuals. They go through various situations at home and outside and slowly learn to face them with our guidance.

They will have many emotional out bursts ..fighting , fears , crying and temper tantrums ..but we  should not allow these emotions to influence our response towards them.

Emotions are an important part of growing up and we should allow the children to express  their emotions .. rather than suppressing them..unless of course , they are in anyway physically hurting someone else or themselves.

 

CRYING

Why do children cry?

Crying is an emotion every one experiences .We cry for happiness or when we are sad or are hurt.

Crying is one of the first emotions a child expresses—–

Children cry when they may be hungry or thirsty and can’t express themselves.

..Children cry because they may be scared.

..They may cry because they are hurt.

..They may cry when they are scolded or not given what they want.

..They may cry to get attention or just because they are bored.

What do we do when a child cries?

We normally tend to tell the child not to cry ,or just say stop that crying . Sometimes we may express our displeasure for their crying  ,walk away or tell them we won’t talk to them if they cry.

Here are some tips to help you….remember a child like us has the right to express their emotions . So if say a child does cry let them do so for a while , take them aside and hug them if they allow.

After a while when they stop here are a few words one can try.

..Wipe your face , I am here with you , would you like to tell me what happened.

..You can say –

–I am listening to you.

–I understand you and this is hard on you.

–I am there for you and will help you .

–It’s ok to be sad and cry.. don’t feel ashamed about it.

–Try and comfort the child and slowly distract them . A little hug or smile helps.

Many a time the child will stop crying when they feel relaxed.

We can sometimes just avoid the crying ,  smile and carry on.

A little praise or some responsibility helps to forget the crying.

Like I always say ..

Parenting has no magic wand. Each one has to find a way to handle emotional outbursts..

A bit of love , a smile , a hug and distraction ,along with disciplining ( which children like )  will help you.

But don’t suppress emotions ..they are a part of growing up.

listen

Talk gently and be patient.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Distract if crying is just for attention seeking.

 

Let children express emotions for a while , take them to a side and talk softly to comfort them.

Emotional outbursts are only the outward expression of inner feelings.

Handle them with patience , love and gentleness.

Remember don’t over indulge into or analyze every emotion.

Emotions are a healthy part of growing up.

 

Pearls of Wisdom

 

A pearl is a beautiful bead made by an oyster .. many  pearls strung together make a necklace.

 

 

Children learn what is right and what is wrong – as they grow up .

Just like the pearls make a beautiful necklace when strung together , we will learn one small value everyday and call it our

” PEARL OF WISDOM ”   a daily dose of values.

Children learn values through daily interactions with adults and also with the environment in which they live in . They pick up values through exposure and their experience.

Here is our Panchtantra ( 5 points ) of values :

Relationships…..Respect all forms of life

Health….Eat to live and not live to eat.

Ethics…..A friend in need is a friend indeed.

Self discipline…..Live each day right to make your future bright.

Environment….Observe the beauty of our magical planet (Mother Earth)

Let us all make a pledge to join together and help our children to become good and compassionate  adults , as they grow up and .. make this world a better place for everyone.

 

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