Emotions — Behavioural Pattern 7

Emotions are symptoms every child has in the process of growing up. Emotions could be sad or happy , but whatever the feeling we should never ever try to suppress them but help to direct and channel them into constructive use.

As we grow up we learn how to manage our emotions either by sharing them or just by ourselves.

Kids in kindergarten are just coming out into the world. In their first five years they learn many things….. sharing , socializing , building up their self esteem and standing out as individuals. They go through various situations at home and outside and slowly learn to face them with our guidance.

They will have many emotional out bursts ..fighting , fears , crying and temper tantrums ..but we  should not allow these emotions to influence our response towards them.

Emotions are an important part of growing up and we should allow the children to express  their emotions .. rather than suppressing them..unless of course , they are in anyway physically hurting someone else or themselves.



Why do children cry?

Crying is an emotion every one experiences .We cry for happiness or when we are sad or are hurt.

Crying is one of the first emotions a child expresses—–

Children cry when they may be hungry or thirsty and can’t express themselves.

..Children cry because they may be scared.

..They may cry because they are hurt.

..They may cry when they are scolded or not given what they want.

..They may cry to get attention or just because they are bored.

What do we do when a child cries?

We normally tend to tell the child not to cry ,or just say stop that crying . Sometimes we may express our displeasure for their crying  ,walk away or tell them we won’t talk to them if they cry.

Here are some tips to help you….remember a child like us has the right to express their emotions . So if say a child does cry let them do so for a while , take them aside and hug them if they allow.

After a while when they stop here are a few words one can try.

..Wipe your face , I am here with you , would you like to tell me what happened.

..You can say –

–I am listening to you.

–I understand you and this is hard on you.

–I am there for you and will help you .

–It’s ok to be sad and cry.. don’t feel ashamed about it.

–Try and comfort the child and slowly distract them . A little hug or smile helps.

Many a time the child will stop crying when they feel relaxed.

We can sometimes just avoid the crying ,  smile and carry on.

A little praise or some responsibility helps to forget the crying.

Like I always say ..

Parenting has no magic wand. Each one has to find a way to handle emotional outbursts..

A bit of love , a smile , a hug and distraction ,along with disciplining ( which children like )  will help you.

But don’t suppress emotions ..they are a part of growing up.


Talk gently and be patient.









Distract if crying is just for attention seeking.


Let children express emotions for a while , take them to a side and talk softly to comfort them.

Emotional outbursts are only the outward expression of inner feelings.

Handle them with patience , love and gentleness.

Remember don’t over indulge into or analyze every emotion.

Emotions are a healthy part of growing up.


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